I received a text from Emily that her friend has a "Ruby-ish" child and is struggling and feels that she is alone.
Emily requested some Ruby stories, to help her friend feel better and realize there are lots of crazy kids out there. :) After I wrote the email I realized I needed to save it for family history purposes, which means it needs to be posted to my blog.
Here is the email in it's entirety.
I honestly don’t have a lot of photo evidence of the really bad moments, because either she was in too dangerous of a situation to take a picture (on top of the fridge) or I was too in shock by the disaster or situation that she created to think of documenting it (this is the usual culprit).
But, I do have some that sum up her personality quite accurately.
Our life was all down hill when Ruby started walking at 10 months and climbing at 11 months. And figuring out how to get out of her highchair straps at 13 months. Hence I have lots of pictures of Ruby on the table.
She destroys most toys. Every toy she got for her 3rd birthday was broken by the end of the day, new stroller (her first one she got when he was 18 months and it lasted a few days until it started breaking), minnie mouse couch, and princess tent.
She has also bitten every head off the princess figures that were macey’s. This is Dora’s mom that she destroyed the first day I got the dora house down for her.
Lots of holes in clothing.
Obviously she’s a dumper. All it takes is me turning my back or going to dry my hair.
Nothing is off limits to her dumping, although she rarely dumps things in plain sight like in the kitchen or living room. She is usually more sneaky about it and likes to dump things in people’s rooms.
She also hides things. Once I found Macey’s diary key in the bottom of the aquafor.
Many things have gotten flushed down the toilet. Car keys included.
she loves to get her own snacks. We installed a lock on the pantry and child locks on the fridge and freezer (which she broke within the first day). I’ve got her off the top shelf in the panty, fridge, getting knifes, making her own chocolate milk.
Chairs have been pushed and pulled all over our house since she was 12 months old. I had to get rid of all stools and toy bins that you can stand on.
This day she locked me out of the house. and in the time it took me to run around to the back door she had flushed my keys down the toilet, gotten the tupperware with watermelon out of the fridge and pried open and got watermelon juice on as many surfaces as possible.
This day she locked me out to eat ice-cream. I keep a key in my pocket now.
every surface in our living room and her room has been drawn on.
I forgot to put the child lock back in place one day during her nap. She emptied every messy item from my craft drawers and left all the ribbon, paper, cards, crayons and things like that.
Her room was covered in stamps and markers and the soles of her feet and palms of her hands were red for a few days
Also, when we had just installed the kind of child lock you can get at toysrus, she broke it the first night and got out my sewing pins, Her floor was covered, so was her bed and pjs’ and they were even sticking her through her pjs while she slept when we checked on her that night. We then invested in the heavy duty kind of child locks and we’ve been safer ever since.
Remember the phase where she wouldn’t keep her diaper on at night? We tried backwards pjs and taped the diaper on, it worked half the time. It was a cold camping summer for her, sleeping naked.
She’s always dirty.
and loves to get into my makeup when I forget to lock the bathroom door. All of our doors have knobs that lock, turned around backwards with the keys hanging on hooks above the door jams.
She can tackle kids twice her size.
She cannot be contained and can climb most things the big kids can.
And she gets stuck a lot. This day she hauled this foot stool up stairs to my bathroom and got stuck. I’ve rescued her hanging from the top of the fence, monkey bars, top of fridge, hanging from the top shelf in the panty, on top of the car...
You’d think I don’t watch her, but I really do. It seriously just takes her 2 min to create a disaster or get into some sort of trouble.
Running errands with this child is almost impossible. I keep well stocked with dum dums, but that only works for a few min. If she thinks I’m taking too long she starts throwing things out of my cart. and always throws her shoes at me. You should see me trying to get her buckled in most days. There’s a lot of stiff arming and sweating happening until she is somewhat secure.
I believe she ran into the parking lot 3x during the kids haircut this past week and then when i would grab her she would spit at me, pull my hair and hit me. Eventually she had to be put in her carseat in the hot car for 15 min. cause it was safer than running into the parking lot.
She’s the most stubborn kid i’ve had.
But cute too.
And please, assure your friend I am an amazing mom who does not let her children run wild with no supervision. Tell her how good Crew and Macey are (you should probably leave miles out of it). :)
Ruby is 3.
: Mickey Mouse ClubhouseColor
: PinkBest Friends
: Roman and IzellaFavorite Toys:
Baby dolls, dr. Kit, princess figuresFavorite Princess:
Chocolate MilkFavorite Food:
Cereal (but she's not picky yet, she eats almost anything)Books:
How do Dinosaurs Get Well Soon, Baby lit fairy books, Alice the Fairy
Ruby loves all things girly, but is not girly at all. it's pretty funny. She loves all things pink and princesses, but has no idea how to be soft with anything. Almost every toy she owns is broken or dented. her baby dolls are about as dirty as she gets by the end of each day.
Her favorite pastime is to beat up on Crew. She has a very hard time sharing her toys and is not afraid to get down and dirty to get it back, which is why she beats Crew up a lot.
This is what I got when I told her to smile.
She loves to go to the park and play outside with Izella and Roman. She is always watching for her friends outside and wants to go out as soon as she spots ANYONE (neighborhood dogs included).
She still sucks her two fingers and rubs her belly button when she's tired.
She does not like to get her hair done. To be contained. Or told what to do. Thus, she still has a lock on her door.
But, she does like to do what the big kids are doing. So, that is at least helpful at after dinner chore time. Not so helpful when the other 3 are climbing rocks, jumping into the pool, or climbing on the tops of very tall slides.
She was very spoiled on her birthday and she loved every moment of it.
Minnie Mouse pancakes, as requested.
Lots of pink princess presents.
And hugs all around.
I think the favorite part of her day was that all the kids wanted to play with her and her new toys.
She still refers to Crew as "Crew-Crew", makes my heart happy.
In typical Ruby fashion most of her toys have already had to be repaired (stroller, minnie couch, and princess tent).
There are so many things I want to remember about her at this stage and then so many things I hope to forget too. :)
She's spicy, sassy, loud, cuddly, friendly, opinionated, strong, playful and very loveable.
This girl runs the house and no one seems to mind too much. She was meant to to be the baby of this family and we all love our Wild Ruby.
march madness at home
March always comes just when we need it.
I never realize how much pent up energy these kids have inside them until they are set free after winter.
If the sun is out, these kids are out. Dinner is skipped many evenings, or shoveled into their mouths at a lightening pace, to get back outside.
Never a shortage of friends or things to do.
And I get to see my long lost friends too. Life is good.
Crewby keeps me busy during the day with constant fort building.
I actually banned forts for April though, I'm a good mom like that. Ruby loves to destroy them and Crew loves to scream and cry when this happens. So, we are taking a break, before I completely loose it. :)
We registered Crew for Kindergarten this month.
I am not too happy about having him gone everyday next school year, but bless Utah and their half day kindergarten.
Look at this stud, I am not quite ready to part with him.
Although, he has been mastering the screaming fit lately, so I won't miss that. :)
Lucky for me, I still get this crazy girl all to myself for a little longer.
She is actually starting to play and pretend with her toys. I love to watch.
She also uses everything as a magic wand and is constantly turning me into Belle or Ruby.
And look at this hair!
And these best friends are just the cutest. Ruby's life just wouldn't be the same if Ella didn't live across the grass from us.
I often get asked if Ruby is still wild. The answer is "yes!"
There are a million stories I could share. This particular picture though represents what happens the 1 time I forget to lock the closet door in her room.
She was suppose to be napping, but she of course sensed my mistake and emptied all my more dangerous craft items all over her room. She left the paper, crayons, googly eyes, pom-poms, craft sticks, washable markers, and tape alone.
Instead she went for ALL the permanent markers, ink pads, and scissors. She covered every item in her room, and her body of course, in ink. Luckily her wardrobe is installed with self locking technology, otherwise I am sure all of her clothes would be covered in permanent marker as well.
45 min in the bath and 45 min scrubbing her room and most of the marker is gone. the palms of her hands and soles of her feet were pink for a week. And her bedframe is a lost cause. Other than that, it didn't turn out too badly.
Once again, this is why we spend so much time outside. :)
Crew learned to ride a two wheeler last year, but he isn't quite ready for real bike rides, due to the fact that he can't ride straight and either rides into fences or off the curb. I find it a bit stressful. So, we have been doing lots of practicing in the Target parking lot.
This particular day we ended up with a 3 bike pile up. I think we need a little more work on the brakes.
There's of course been lots of basketball watching. M&M are very into this year and have kept very good tabs on their favorite teams.
We bought Rogue One and these 3 LOVED it. We sent them down to get their PJ's on and they all came up in their Star Wars gear.
We pulled Miles' Battle Bots arena down from it's high shelve and it's been quite entertaining. Ellie even got in on the action when she stopped by to visit.
A highlight of every March is always Paul's Birthday.
homemade chocolate cake with homemade frosting...only the best for this guy.
He even got to come home from work early to play with us. And yes, notice another fort has been set up in the backyard.
We then got a babysitter. Watched some basketball at Buffalo Wild Wings. Then played mini golf and video games. I love birthdays.
I also caught this cute leprechaun.
After going through all the pictures I took in October I now know why I am so completely exhausted...holy crap we did a lot.
October in Utah is one of my favorite months though (it almost rivals June).
We took the kids to hike The Y.
I was the only one who had done it before and I had forgotten how incredibly steep it is.
1,000 feet of elevation gain in 1 mile. that's a lot for little legs and
even longer ones too.
The kids did amazing and M&M ran most of the way up (after complaining and crying the entire drive to the trailhead).
As always, Paul and Ruby were best hiking buddies.
We are soaking up the sunshine until the cold weather hits.
Lots of playing on the deck for these 2 while I try to get a few things done in the house.
It's crazy how much I miss this tiny space when the snow comes.
And who can resist getting to play in the rain?! And yes, he has pants on, he's just rolled them up. :)
This is Ruby bossing the big kids around and telling them not to touch her toys.
Every once in awhile Crewby gets lucky and I take them somewhere fun, instead of just running errands while the big kid are at school
Checking out the new toys at the mall
and swimming at the rec center.
And when I'm feeling very generous I pull out the paints and playdough.
And then I am reminded why I prefer to do things outside of our house.
M&M obviously get a little upset when we do things that are too
fun while they are at school, so we make sure to include them from time to time.
Thanksgiving Point usually does the trick.
Especially when it's with The Brown's.
We have about a million pictures with this dinosaur, that can no longer be seen since we have so many kids now and they are all so big.
We picked the perfect Saturday to go to The Museum of Natural Curiosity.
Ruby parked herself in the Vet Clinic and had it all to herself for probably 30 min. And we didn't even loose anyone in the Jungle. New record.
Pretty sure everyone else was busy at Cornbelly's.
Ruby and I have still been running with Traci a few times a week. Her and Hailey like to ride together to pass the time and we rotate pushing that beast of a double stroller.
Macey has been working on her cooking skills this month. And it is starting to become very helpful.
First, she made us cookies and then when I was at the boys karate class, she preheated the oven and put dinner in for me. Sometimes it's not so bad that these kids grow up.
Sharing her cookies with the neighbors.
We had a girls night with some of our favorites.
Dinner at Corner Bakery, a 1 hour play, and we wore our matching leopard print booties. Perfection.
One of the more exciting things that happened this month was Miles graduating from Speech!
This kid has been rocking first grade and is working so hard (that does not mean there still isn't lots of screaming and tears) .
I cried at his IEP when they told me he tested out. Mostly I was crying because Miles has had a team of people at his side since he was 6 months old! It is a very strange feeling to be out on our own and I just have this deep gratitude for all these amazing programs and people who have helped to get us to this point.
In case you were wondering if Ruby has calmed down, she has not. In fact, things have only gotten crazier when it comes to her.
yes, she's cute. And it's fun to see her start to use more imaginative play. She always makes sure I never go hungry and is constantly "cookin" me things in her kitchen.
But, don't let this fool you.
The moment my back is turned she's flushing things down the toilet, climbing on things, dumping things, hitting kids, breaking child locks, and drawing on any surface that should not be drawn on.
The hardest thing this month has been the fact that she forced our hand and we had to move her out of the crib.
This means no more naps, early rising, terrorizing of the boys at night, and emptying everything in their room every single night.
I am barely holding on by the end of most days. I am still not used to not getting a break from her to eat my lunch in piece or shower or just stare at the walls in silence. I miss nap time.
Luckily, she has fallen asleep a few times this month, so I have been able to eat a snack without her trying to steal it from me.
Her current favorite book is Alice the Fairy. I think there's a lot of resemblance between Alice and Ruby. and luckily, it's one of the books I don't mind reading every single day.
Low point of the month was when Macey asked me, "if it wasn't for Ruby would you be so grouchy?" :)
I did have one glorious afternoon this month where I got my hair cut & colored. I even had time to read some of my book club book.
And yes, my amazing hairstylist made cat ears on me while my color set. It's the little things.
phew. That's our October in a nutshell.
life with 2 year old ruby
Ruby has been so crazy and fun this month, she deserves her own post.
The moment my back is turned, this girl gets into something.
Whether it is stealing a watermelon rind out of the garbage can.
Or causing some sort of mischief in the bathroom.
Here she is telling me "Go Outside. Outside!" It's hard to keep anything stocked in our freezer. waffles, toaster strudels, chocolate chips, popsicles, icecream...you name it, she will eat it. yes, we have tried to lock our freezer, she just keeps breaking it. Luckily, the lock on our pantry has worked, so i haven't had to worry about her climbing up those shelves and getting cereal everywhere ALL the time.
She loves to cook us things in her kitchen.
Left over items from her lunch and dinner can often be found in her fridge, sink, oven or microwave.
Ruby loves to play with her friends and baby dolls.
I love when her and Ella see each other across the grass and run in for a hug.
She also locked us out of the house and terrorized it while I had to run around to hop the backfence to get in.
She keeps me on my toes and is the reason I never get anything done.
She also has become a neighborhood bully of sorts and tends to push, hit and tackle whenever she feels so inclined. I do not think I have ever put a child in timeout as much as I have had to with her.
While she most definitely has a wild and rebellious side, there is a sweet side to her too. Anytime she meets anyone new she instantly calls them her friend. She loves to greet the neighborhood moms and thinks they all want to hug and hold her. She is constantly asking me for a huggle and wraps her arms tight around my neck and says "I love you, mama". She is very polite and never forgets to say "please" and "thank you". The most exciting thing that she has accomplished this month though is, she is actually keeping her clothes and diaper on during naps and bedtime, so no more taping her diaper on!!!!!
We love this 2 year old Ruby.